If you care for children under the age of 10 you really need to read, 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. It is a wonderful positive discipline strategy that can easily be implemented by anyone. I am currently reading this discipline strategy book at the recommendation of a teacher friend of mine. I must say I am very impressed with the ease at which the whole system can be implemented. Dr. Phelan uses an incredible amount of common sense that I believe will make life with your children so much more enjoyable. The program is broken down into three easy steps that can be implemented by parents, nannies, teachers and grandparents. Step 1: Controlling Obnoxious Behavior: Learn an amazingly simple discipline technique to get children to STOP doing what you don’t want them to do such as whining, arguing, tantrums, etc. Step 2: Encouraging Good Behavior: Learn several effective methods to get the children in your care to START doing what you do want them to do such as cleaning their room, going to bed, homework, etc. Step 3: Strengthening Your Relationship: Learn four powerful ways to reinforce positive bonds between yourself and the kids you care for. This method is kind, respectful and does not damage a child’s self esteem. It is what I like to call Parent-Led Parenting. This book is written in a way that will benefit a nanny or parent. I feel it is an invaluable resource to for you to have. I highly recommend! Be sure to check out my upcoming blog post where I will be talking about parenting styles and how they relate to your children’s future ability to make good decisions. As always if you need help finding a professional nanny that will treat your child like family please contact us
When you are choosing your life’s work it is important to find a career that brings you joy. Every one of us has personality traits and natural gifts that should guide us in choosing a career path. Let’s take a closer look at the qualities that make an exceptional nurturing nanny.
This trait cannot be overstated enough. It is the number one most important quality that a nanny must have. Children are energy sponges. They absorb the energy of those around them and reflect it back. If you take a job as a nanny because you feel it is beneficial financially, but in reality you are counting the minutes till you are off every day, you will never be truly successful as a nanny. You may be able to earn a paycheck but the children will know if you are genuinely present with them, if you really care. Their behavior will be a direct reflection of your love for your job as their caretaker.
As a professional nanny many times you will be asked to bring order out of chaos. Families today are literally drowning under the weight of work schedules, child care and home responsibilities. Children thrive when they have a predictable schedule and an environment that is orderly. Successful nannies will be able to plan out a daily schedule of activities, meals, nap times and keep a written log for parents to view at the end of each day.
Good communication is crucial to a strong nanny/parent relationship. As a parent it can be incredibly difficult to trust someone with the care of your child. You can build trust with the parent by keeping a clear line of communication open every day. I tell every family I work with that I understand that these are their children and I honor their wishes in all the daily care of their children. It is just as important to be a good listener as it is to speak.
When you are in someone’s home everyday it is easy to become so comfortable that you forget that you are an employee and not a member of their family. The family may even encourage this by telling you to help yourself to their food, make yourself at home or acting as if it is no problem if you are late. A professional nanny treats every family with the utmost respect and professionalism. While your family will ideally become dear to your heart, you must never forget that they are your employer. They are always evaluating your behavior and determining if you are the best person to care for their child. A professional nanny is clean and neatly dressed, shows up promptly, is reliable, plans out age appropriate activities for the children and always leaves the house picked up and the kitchen clean at the end of the day.
This is a brief introduction to the qualities that will make you successful in your career as a professional nanny.